Comfortable Chaos – Planning for Baby #3

When people ask how I’m doing, I answer honestly.  Life isn’t perfect.  Some days are better than others, and some days … well, some days just flat out suck. My girls aren’t always perfect, but I never expected that anyway.  Thanks to social media, I am able to somewhat keep up with what’s going on in the world.  I don’t wear (or even know) the latest trends or styles, but at this point, wearing nice clothes comes with the risk of spit ups, smudges, and sticky fingerprints anyway. This goes the same for our house floors and car floors. Our days are typically sleepless and loud… And the truth is, I wouldn’t have it any other way. At times, it’s chaos, but it’s comfortable chaos. So comfortable in fact that we started to contemplate the idea of adding another kid into the mix.

We always wanted a third child to complete our family and initially we thought that there should be a three-year gap between #2 and #3. But the more we became comfortable in our chaos, the more we began to reconsider. When is anyone ever ready for another baby anyway?

In every logical way however, it made sense to stop at two. Right now we’re not outnumbered and one of us can easily(ish) handle the two of them on our own when need be. We’ll have more money, more freedom, one less mouth to feed, one less college tuition to cough up, we can travel much more (or at least much more easily), and more importantly, we’ll have more time for us. Our marriage is healthy and strong, and we have a pretty good routine going on between our work & life balance. And let’s not forget pregnancy. Honestly more pregnant days than not, I’m just like Elizabeth Banks’ poor preggo character from the movie, “What To Expect When You’re Expecting” (siiiigh).

But another baby…. Yum! I can already smell that newborn smell! And I’d like to think that we’ve made some pretty cute kids so far… The girls get along so well right now and to have them so close in age would (hopefully) mean that they would always be close. I am slightly nervous about the teen years, but I’m sure that by then there will be an app for managing teens. We’ve planned and mapped it out and we can afford the cost of raising another child, more or less. And if it ends up being “less,” we’ll find a way to make it work. We always find a way. Yes, travel would be easier (and less expensive) with two kids than with three, but the thing is… we’re not living a high-end, expensive, jet-setting lifestyle where having one more kid would really interfere.

The life we are living right now is full – it’s messy—it’s loud— it’s crazy—it’s happy—it’s rich—and it’s sometimes overwhelming– but it’s perfectly suited for another little person. Comfortable chaos. And although it can be nerve-wrecking to think that we’ll be outnumbered, it’s starting to feel more and more like the right time for baby number 3.


Baby Number 3 – Due April 2014.



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